所有问题都在女人身上，是因为洪荒之力都在女人体内，女人具有毁灭和创造的力量。
当然，要实事求是。只是有时我们以为的是，并非真的是。我们必须拥有一双看清真相的眼睛。不是只看到事物表面，而是更看到内在的真相。
我遇到过这样的例子：一个妻子总抱怨自己的老公，赚钱能力差，不思进取，整天游手好闲，打麻将，喝酒。话是没有错的，她的老公确实现在的表现就是这样的。而真相是：这个妻子因为小时候被教育一定要强，一定要比男人还强，这样你才会安全，才有掌控权。而妻子为什么要强呢？因为她有一个伤是关于重男轻女的，她觉得只有女人变强了才不会被伤害，她不想再体验受伤的感觉。所以她就有意识地选择了一个从小就不自信的老公，总是依赖妈妈的老公。她给老公钱花，让老公听话，让自己体验一份安全。而这样的情况并不能持续太久。时间长了，老公一方面心理上也想要成长，而另一方面行为上自己又不愿意去承担自己的责任。老婆，因为要强，在外面打拼卖力，很辛苦，回头看看那些不是很强的女性也过着幸福的日子，心有不平。自己这么累，为了什么呢？委屈，抱怨就来了。看那些弱弱的女人，她们家的老公都承担起了家庭的责任。而自己内心实际上也是一个弱女子，却硬要变成一个和男人一样强的女人。这其中的辛苦，只有自己知道。抱怨和委屈以及对自己的愤怒都会转嫁给自己的老公，好像都是老公的错。事实呢？真相呢？就是集体无意识的重男轻女会成为很多个体，尤其是对女性的伤。而女性天生就是比较敏感，缺乏安全感，更容易体验到那个伤。
一个家庭单位，出了问题，一定是一个女人出了问题，这是一个源头。当一个带着伤的女人，去成立一个家庭时，灾难其实已经降临这个家了。这也是真相。
如果只是说女人出了问题，可能会很多人质疑。男人们难道没有问题吗？在我个人的经验以及咨询中：没有一例婚姻问题的根源是因为男人，这是一个很神奇的事情。但是作为解决问题的我们，一定要找到那个根源。问题的根源，就是女人。
早在，石器时代，甚至更早，男人们外出打猎，而女人们在家照顾孩子和老人，创造一个可以安放男人的家。男人的心，往往是向外的，具有拓展意识的。而女人的心，往往是向内的，具有保护意识的。当女人不在自己的位置时，那个男人已经疯掉了。因为一直向外，不知道为什么，只会变得疯狂，最后毁灭。
当一个男人找不到家时，这个男人就会开始毁灭、战争，而这都是源于一个女人不懂得爱自己的男人。如果你看到一个人的要，一定要给予“不给”，因为每个人都有足够的能力让自己过上更好的生活。有时，不给看上去很绝情，但是底下是深深地爱。要时刻保持觉知，清醒的意识。
女人们，释放你们体内的洪荒之力，爆发你们的力量，让它来创造而不是毁灭。
all the problems in the woman, because the power of prehistoric woman body in women having the power of destruction and creation.
of course, to be realistic. but sometimes we think is not really yes. we must have a pair of eyes to see the truth. not only see the surface of things, but more to see the inner truth.
i encountered such examples: a wife always complain about their husband, money poor, lazy, idle all day, playing mahjong and drinking. words are not wrong, her husband really are behaving like this. the truth is: the wife because a child is education must be strong, must be stronger than men, so that you will be safe, have control over. why is it stronger and his wife? because she has a wound is about patriarchal, she felt only women become strong it will not be hurt, she did not want to experience the hurt feelings. so she had consciously chosen a husband grew up not confident, always dependent on the mother&dots husband. she gave her husband money, let her husband obedient, let yourself experience a safe. and such a situation does not last long. a long time, and her husband on the one hand psychologically want to grow, but on the other hand on the behavior of their own and do not want to take their own responsibility. wife, because strong, hard on the outside work hard, very hard, look back at those who are not strong women are living a happy life, the heart has grievances. himself so tired, for what? grievances, complaining came. look at those with weak woman, her family husband have to assume the family responsibilities. and his heart is actually a weak woman, but insists become as strong as a man and a woman. this is one of hard work, only you know. complaints and grievances and anger will be passed on to their own husband, as if all her husband&dots fault. facts? the truth? is the collective unconscious of patriarchal will be a lot of individuals, especially women&dots injuries. while women are inherently more sensitive, insecure, more likely to experience the hurt.
a family unit, out of the question, it must be a woman out of the question, which is a source. when a woman with injuries, to set up a family when, in fact, has come to this disaster home. this is the truth.
if you just say that a woman is a problem, a lot of people might be questioned. men is not the problem? in my personal experience and consultation: no root cause of the problem is an example of marriage because the man, this is a very wonderful thing. but as a solution to the problems we, must find the root causes. root of the problem, is a woman.
as early stone age, and even earlier, the men are out hunting, and the women at home to take care of children and the elderly, can be placed to a man&dots home. man&dots heart, is often outside, with expanded consciousness. the woman&dots heart, often inward, with the protection consciousness. when a woman is not in their position, the men have gone mad. as has been out, i do not know why, just get mad, and finally destroyed.
when a man can not find at home, the man will begin the destruction, the war, which are derived from a woman does not know how to love their men. if you see a person you want to be sure to give "do not give", because everyone has sufficient capacity to allow himself to live a better life. sometimes, they do not give looks very unsympathetic, but underneath is a deep love. to keep aware, waking consciousness.
women, you force the release of the body&dots prehistoric outbreak your strength, to rather than destroy it.
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